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Voice Coaches Radio #675 – Advocating For Yourself

 Voice coaches, radio, everything voiceover. Here we are, we're winding down. May, we're ready to dive on into the summer, hopefully. And, uh, have some good times ahead. And, uh, yeah, a little bit more. Sunshine has been happening here in the Albany area too, which is nice. My name is Marissa, brand new episode of Voice Coaches Radio is upon us, and it's been a big week around here for me.

I'll tell you, uh, because. You know, if you've listened to the pod over the last, God, like, you know, almost five years, you've heard a, a little bit of a roller coaster of all the things that I've had to deal with in life. And I, I apologize, you get to learn like way too much about me here, but, you know, it's just me.

Uh, and I just talk and things come out and, and I don't edit anything really. So, you know, if, if I should take something out. I haven't, um, so you're just kind of dealing with me. But, uh, you know, this week I had a very important doctor appointment. And like I, I have those from time to time. You know, I've, I've spoken about it like, you know, I've had an injury from the COVID vacs.

I've clearly battled some, uh, vocal issues over the course. Really, I think it was because the seasons were changing. Uh, and then I had a major concussion right before I started with voice coaches back in 2021. That is what has had me get into some specialists lately, because here we are, you know, about four and a half years later and, and I'm having some issues now in my neck and I was kind of hoping that I would be able to just kind of brush off what happened and we could just move on.

But my body's like, no, uh, that was a major injury. Marissa, you can't just do that. Hello? Trauma. Um, but you know, for those who don't know what happened, like I was working at Lowe's and, and there was like. 50 plus pounds of steel that, that fell from a distance. It landed on my head and then my neck had to hold it up for a couple minutes when somebody could finally come and take it off.

And, um, you know, major concussion. I didn't have like any kind of open wound or anything, you know, but major concussion and initially. Obviously this is a workers' comp situation, so like I went to an occupational doctor and like, you know, they, they just acted like I was lying. I don't know, maybe it's because like, you know, you just look at me and I look fine, you know, but they should know better.

Um, I. You know, so they just acted like I was lying and that I was just like making stuff up and I did not like that. So I did a little bit of physical therapy and it seemed ridiculous. 'cause what they were having me do at that point was just kinda like going on a treadmill to see when my symptoms would kick in.

And I'm like, hi, I have a treadmill at home, I can do that there. Um, so that's what I did and for years I was okay. I, I was doing okay. Like I would have some symptoms that still linger. You know, forgetfulness is a thing. Um, you know, that brain fog. Um, what else? Uh, I get dizzy still from time to time depending on lighting, uh, that that's.

Like interesting, you know, that there's like a, it's like, uh, what was it called? Nystagmus is what they said my eyes were doing at one point. And it's where you are not on a merry-go-round, but your, your brain kind of thinks you are. So that was fun. Um, but now I, I've been having issues with my neck and I mean, it can cause some, like really a lot of discomfort in, in the way of like, if you think like the worst migraine.

It. It's just like debilitating. So I finally went to get this, investigated a little bit, went to a different occupational doctor who actually listened and took thorough notes and then actually did scans. I never had anything done for this initially, so it was crazy. And, uh. They, they could see things right away.

And they sent me to Ortho New York, who I just went to today and I wasn't even there very long. The doctor looked at my scans, he had me slide on over so he could show me exactly what he was looking at. And he goes, this is what a normal spine looks like. This is yours. And like normal spine has like a little bit of a bend to it and stuff.

And like, you know, you can see in between each. Like spine peace, if you will. I don't know what it's called. I'm not a doctor. I don't, I don't do medical voiceover for a reason. Uh, but he goes, this is yours. And mine was like straight almost. And my pieces. Had separation at first, and then there's like three that are kind of together.

And that's where the issue is really, that's where the pain is. And, um, you know, I'm gonna be starting to go to a chiropractor and, and stuff, but what the, the amazing thing that he said was, the only way something like this happens in somebody your age is a work related injury. Or you don't happen to play football, do you?

And I'm like, do I look like I play football? Uh, no. No, I do not play football. Uh, so it was just very, very validating. Uh, and you know, sometimes you really do have to be your own best advocate and get, get in front of the right people. And I finally feel like I have so steps in the right direction, uh, you know, and, uh, you gotta keep fighting for, for what you need, what you want.

If that happens to lead us into what we're gonna talk about today, then, then so be it. Uh, but kind of, uh, you know, 'cause I, I realize this happens more often than I, I guess, had given notice to until recently. But, you know, I'll, I'll have a student and I'll, I'll say all the work that I'm currently doing and, and they're mind blown, you know, and, and a lot of people typically are, they're like, you have how many jobs, but.

You know, I, I'm just over here trying to, you know, get the money in and, and survive and like pay bills and live comfortably, you know? Uh, but when people hear, you know, the, the opportunities that I have, they're like, well, I, I wanna be able to get that many opportunities and, and they just feel like it's so a left field for them for some reason.

And truth be told. I, I'm not like an anomaly here. It's not like I'm the only person that's doing the work in the way that I am and, and has the amount of opportunity that I do. I know I can think about like five people off the top of my head right now that are doing similar things that I am, and um, you know, and life is just as hectic for them.

But, uh, you know, it's all in the steps that you take and we've. Talked about the hard work that you have to put in to create your, your ability, you know, because this is a craft, this is a skill. Some people can come in a little bit more naturally tuned in for it. You know, you come in with like a little bit of something, you know, more so than somebody else.

But it doesn't mean that that, that somebody else can't also then get to where you are and beyond, uh, you know, it's all in the work that you wanna put in to develop your skill, but. How do you go ahead and get the work right? Like that's always the biggest question that people have. And because they haven't navigated this industry, it seems like it's so challenging to, to understand how, how to do it.

And then when we say things like, well, you know, you gotta build relationships and you know, there's people that are around you, I'm sure that could actually guide you or, or use you. And they're just like, no. And it's like, well, how do you know? Have you asked before? Probably not it like how many people walk around this world and they don't even know what their friends do for a living.

Uh, like the famous, you know, thing on Friends is nobody knows what Chandler Bing does for work. And then when they're doing that one like contest where the girls lose their apartment to the boys, Rachel's like, he is a tra, he's a trance sponsor. I was just watching that episode the other night, and that's not even a word.

Um, but nobody knows what he does for work, but. I couldn't exactly explain to you what the majority of my friends do for work, and it's not because I, I haven't like asked or, or tried. I, I think, um. Some of them just do some really confusing things, or they've changed work too. There's also that, but you know, because of these kind of factors, we don't really know who knows who, who could use us, or maybe our friend could end up hiring us for somebody, or they know this person from something they've done in the past who's hiring for this and or maybe this friend knows somebody who has their own business that they, so like that's why it's so important that you need to just like.

Open up your eyes to your own situation at first and the people that are surrounding you, that that's your, that's like your wheelhouse in, in the potential of opportunity. You know? And like, I'm just trying to think like when I was beginning it, it's weird because like it's, God, it was so long ago now, but I mean, I was at the radio school, so I was at this like broadcast school and.

I didn't personally really have anybody 'cause I, I mean, I was 20. I mean, there may have been somebody that my parents knew that like, whatever, but it's not like my, my college age friends had people working in any kind of industries that were gonna use me necessarily. But because of the relationships I built at the school, you get that.

You get their people right? Like the relations, like you don't just get your people, you get their people. And that's where it's like a little, they're like a, a lily pad and you're, you're just a little frog that's jumping ahead, you know? And, uh, you know, for me it's like my teacher, my teacher was the one, my, my teacher was the one that knew what I was doing.

Watched how I was progressing was like impressed in that moment because we'd only been playing around with stuff for a really, really brief amount of time. And, and I think he could see how excited I was too, you know, and, and, and the willingness to learn and, and being open and, and just like the, the kind of drive that I had.

Next thing you know, while it was another teacher that he got me in contact with, you know, it was somebody that happened to be working at a radio station right there in town, and it was that relationship that then led to his boss, which then led to my first job. So it's like you really just need to make sure that you're paying attention and.

You're, you're just spreading the word to help yourself, you know, and, and like letting people understand what your capabilities are. And we have a really, really big tendency at first to not wanna spread the word until we're, we're, we'll say quote better or. More polished or whatever. But listen, we've all gotta start somewhere, right?

And if I played you the audio that he was playing to, you know, the, the guy that worked at the radio station, like, I can't say that that was my best work, but it was in that moment and it showed so much potential, like, so much. And, and that's the thing, right? Like you're only as good as you can be right now.

Every step that you take, every bit of practice is getting you steps in the right direction. And that is what you gotta realize. It's like you're only as good as you can be today, but you're probably gonna be even better tomorrow, and you're gonna be even better six months from now and a year from now and 10 years from now.

And one day you'll look back at the audio and you'll take that, listen about. You know, what got you your first job or the audio that is from your first job and you're gonna be like, man, listen to how great I sound now compared to that and, and it's like, I know why I got hired. I can hear everything that they were hearing, you know, and, and based on their budget.

Yeah, I was, I was what they were gonna get and, and you know, it worked for what they needed, but man, I sound so much better now. And it's really, it, it is like consistent work that you have to put in. So just, just keep plucking along and don't be the person, don't be what holds yourself back. Spread the word, you know, that is so, so important because.

I've, I've talked about that before in the way of like, all these years in, but losing everything during the pandemic and, and basically having to start all over again, except that I wasn't truly starting all over again because I had a good like 15, 16 years at that point of. All of those cultivated relationships and experiences and people that I've done projects with and people who heard through somebody else how good I did with this, or, oh my God, you've got a budget, you better go check, check out Marissa.

You know, I, I know that she's got a home studio, like they're watching what I'm doing. So like I was very, I don't wanna say lucky in, in that way. It feels lucky, but it's. It's just one of those things where it allows me to understand that I did it the right way. And when you're doing that. I mean, it might not even feel like work.

It might just feel like you're doing what you're supposed to and you're having fun with it. That's what it was for me. That's why like when the work started coming in and I felt like it was coming a little bit too easy, I, I felt like I didn't deserve it, but it was like, it's because you've enjoyed what you've been doing this entire time and, and all those steps that you took it, it didn't feel like work.

It just felt fun. And that's, that's the beautiful part about doing what you love. And, um, you know, you're gonna have a great opportunity just, just by opening your mouth to the people that you know. But from there, it's like. Just start exploring all avenues that make sense. And you wanna be creative with it.

You know, I think, is it today or was it yesterday? National? Like be c create, create, create. I can't speak now. Uh, it's a good thing I do this for a living, uh, national, be creative day or, or like creativity day, whatever it was. Um, you know, you've gotta sometimes really, really think outside the box and somebody might be like, oh, well if I wanna do commercial work, I need to go where?

Somebody might need a commercial. It's like any business that's out there. Cool. All right. That's easy enough. If I wanna do training, I gotta go to any business that might utilize a training. That's pretty much everybody. Right. Um, but what do you do to, to get audiobook work or, or like educational information?

Like how do you do that kind of work? Maybe it's going to different colleges. You don't actually necessarily need to physically go there, but you might reach out, make a phone call, send an email. Just like little, hi, my name is Marissa, and, uh, you know, I, I, I'm doing this kinda work. I'm really excited and I, you know, I've been, uh, trying to hone some skills and I, I've got a demo that I wanna go ahead and send along to the right person if you can point me in the right direction.

If it's not you, um, you know, whatever. You just, you have to be open to. Allowing yourself to, to not get a response at all. I think, you know, I've, I've had plenty of those situations. I've sent many, many emails over the course of 20 years and, uh, in, in, in a lot of cases not heard back. But then, you know, those handful of people that do reply are the ones that they end up becoming.

A part of, of your community, a part of your network, and it might not lead to a gig in that moment, but you never know what it could lead to. You know, once the door is open. It's just a matter of time sometimes. Um, and it, it might not be, you know, a month from that time, but it, it could be three years from now, uh, you know, all of a sudden they reach out 'cause they've got an opportunity that they weren't expecting.

And, uh, you know, you reached out and they, they remember you for whatever reason you just stood out. Um, so, you know, you wanna really, like when you're in the midst of getting yourself together and you've been working hard on your skills. And you wanna try to start getting opportunity and, and building that community for yourself, you've really gotta, I mean, start with home and then spread your wings and just start to fly.

You know, don't be the one that, uh, is too nervous to, to put yourself out there because, you know, that is when, when we let the nerves take over is where we start to hold ourselves back. And, uh, you have this opportunity to step outside the comfort zone a little bit. If this is something that you really, truly want to do, you will let yourself do that so you can explore this industry.

It is a beautiful one and it's so much fun. And you know, if you've been doing something that you dislike for years and you know, you've gone on however many job interviews that you've had in that same industry, and you've replied to this post and this, you know, LinkedIn ad and whatever, it's the same thing here.

Except it's just new. And we all have to start somewhere. You know, anything that you've done before, it was new at some point, and then it got comfortable, it will here too. Uh, you've just got, gotta give yourself a little bit of leeway, you know, a little bit of patience and understanding, and just some wiggle room.

But it'll all happen and it's gonna be a beautiful moment when it does, and I can't wait to see it for you. But, uh, we've got a brand new episode of Voice Coaches Radio that is gonna be coming at you next week. It's gonna be June. It's gonna be my birthday month. Do we start celebrating next episode? I don't know.

Um, but uh, I'm looking forward to it. And if you've got anything you want us to tackle on the pod, [email protected], I hope you enjoy the weekend and stay safe. Everybody. Visit voice coaches.com for more voiceover news and information.

This week on Voice Coaches Radio, Marissa chats about the important of self advocacy in medicine but, also,  in everything you do.